2012年12月10日
兩人總比一人好
「朋友乃時常親愛…」箴言17:17上
祖迪是我自中學便認識的一位很要好的朋友。有一天,她致電給我。自我青少年時,她媽媽一直是我的「誼母」。據她親生女兒告知,蒂儀媽媽最近身體不大好。蒂儀媽媽的思想仍然清晰,可惜她的身體已經衰殘,四肢癱瘓,在她現居的老人院裡,她要完全倚賴醫護人員。她只能定睛看那安裝在距離她床15尺的小型電視機,而大部分時間,她會望向窗外或小睡來度過每一天。
不用說,祖迪早已為她體弱的媽媽傷心不已,因她媽媽知道自己在世的生命時日無多,現在只渴求歸天家。而這位孝順的女兒不惜一切,讓她媽媽的生活盡量過得舒適,然而她等候和疑惑,可否有更好的方法來照顧她的媽媽,這實在給她太大的壓力,身心俱疲。
我
的「親生」母親,了不起的媽媽麗韻,剛在半年前去世。在最近一次發給祖迪的電郵中,我這樣分享:「在這段關心我們摰愛母親的傷痛時期,主一次又一次與我們
同行的經歷,實在奇妙。我非常愛你,無論怎樣,很想在你身旁支持你。」瞬間,我最喜歡的其中幾節經文在我腦海浮現,我就與祖迪分享,希望這經文能給祖迪一
個確據,在她傷心之時,她不是孤單一人。
「兩個總比一個人好,因為二人勞碌同得美好的果效。若是跌倒,這人可以扶起他的同伴……有人攻勝孤身一人,若有二人便能敵擋他。(傳道書4:9 -10;12上)
祈禱:
親愛的主!助我成為別人的朋友,藉著話語和行為,使他們振作,得著力量。
在艱難時期,感謝那些曾幫助我的朋友,支持我,幫助我度過傷痛歲月,讓我感到,我不是孤單一人。阿們!
靈修:你曾經與誰一起同行,每一步支持及鼓勵他們走過試煉?在你需要之時,又有誰曾幫助你呢?
10 Dec 2012
Two are better than one...
"A friend loves at all times..." - Proverbs 17:17a
Judi, a dear, longtime friend since high school, called the other
day. Her mom has been my "second mom" since I was a teenager, and, according to
her "first" daughter, Momma Dee is not doing so well these days. Dee is still
thinking with clarity, but her body has given out to a condition that has
rendered her quadriplegic and totally dependent on medical personnel in the rest
home she now occupies. With eyes that strain to read or watch the tiny TV
mounted 15 feet from her bed, most of her hours are now spent looking out the
window or napping away the day.
Needless to say, Judi is already grieving
for her vibrant mother who knows that her life is fading and now yearns for her
heavenly home. This loyal daughter will do everything to make her mom's life as
comfortable as possible, but the waiting and the wondering if there is a better
way to care for her mom weighs heavily on my friend.
My "first" mom, my
wonderful mother LaVerne, passed away only six months ago. In a recent e-mail to
Judi, I shared, "It's amazing that the Lord is walking us, one right after the
other, through this heartbreaking season with our beloved mothers. I love you so
much and want to be there for you in any way I can." Instantly, one of my
favorite scriptures popped into my mind, and I shared it, hoping it would assure
Judi that she is not alone in her time of heartbreak:
"Two people are
better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls,
the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real
trouble...A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can
stand back-to-back and conquer" (Ecclesiastes
4:9-10,12a)Prayer: Dear Lord, help me to be a friend to others, lifting and
strengthening them through word and deed. Thank You for those friends who have
helped me through times of trouble, standing back-to-back with me, helping me to
get through seasons of sorrow, showing me that I am not alone.
Amen.
Devotion: Who have
you walked with through a time of trial, supporting and encouraging them each
step of the way? Who has helped you in your times of need?